NATIONAL DAY AGAINST DEPRESSION

Today’s post was planned to be about a completely different topic, specifically about New Year’s resolutions, but due to the events that happened in my head in the last few days, I have a strong need to share with you this extremely difficult, but highly important topic. With World Depression Day approaching, I want this topic to reach as many people as possible.

Millions of people around the world use the help of psychologists and the number is constantly growing.

The demand for therapy is huge, and the growing queues to specialists, and the fear or shame of standing in line among completely random strangers make online psychotherapy and telephone consultations an increasingly common and popular form of therapy.

More than 300 million suffer from depression. people in the world, and this is not the only ailment that requires specialist intervention. Anxiety disorders, addictions, eating disorders, trauma after experiencing violence, neuroses, and sexual disorders. There are plenty of problems, but therapy is still a taboo topic. A problem that can often be solved is underestimated, and the person who should be helped takes a completely different direction – escaping into drugs – drugs, alcohol, or violence…

A large part of society still considers therapy to be an admission of error, showing weakness, we are still reluctant to take this important step to simply ask for help and change our lives for the better.

The most common problems faced by patients are anxiety, depression, and addiction. The most common diagnostic systems are the ICD and DSM, and the most popular form of therapy is individual psychotherapy in private practice.

Women are more willing to use the help of a therapist, similarly, the profession of a psychotherapist is more often chosen by the fair sex. In men, the following are most often diagnosed: antisocial personality (psychopathy), narcissistic, and schizoid, while in women, borderline, histrionic, and dependent personality. People between the ages of 30 and 40 are the largest group on the therapy couch.

Often one major problem leads to another. Depression leads to addiction problems, which in turn can lead to problems in your personal life.

The more liberal the country, the more positive the approach to psychotherapy. Citizens of countries where attachment to religion is strong are often reluctant to seek the help of a psychotherapist if necessary – after all, there is a confession, putting one’s problems and concerns in the hands of a god, abandoning oneself to fate, entrusting oneself, prayer, and of course, there is no nothing wrong, but there are moments when the most ordinary conversation with an outsider, a person who can look at us and our problem from a different perspective, can work “miracles”.

Fortunately, this is changing for the better. Increasingly, this way of dealing with mental problems is in trend, prestigious and fashionable. Having your therapist is slowly becoming the norm and, in a way, the standard.

Let’s not forget, however, that therapy has the best results when it is a conscious, independent, and voluntary choice.

A person who decides to work with a psychotherapist cannot act under pressure from third parties and must be aware that most of the work will be done by him, not the person sitting on the other side of the desk.

Psychotherapy requires determination. Overcoming the fear of opening up to a stranger is difficult, and an honest conversation about your weaknesses and difficulties can sometimes be shocking. Confrontation of the image of oneself with the current image seen through the eyes of a specialist requires courage and a real willingness to change.

It takes great courage to say these few words and admit not only to others but above all to yourself “I’m not well, I need help”.

If you feel indifference, fear, or lack of any willingness to act, know that you can fight it and change your life for the better. Sometimes we don’t realize that it’s not us that’s wrong. Sometimes it can just be a matter of hormonal imbalance.

It’s worth looking for help, it’s worth improving the comfort of your life, it’s worth talking, and if a good friend asks “Hey, how are you?”.. instead of dismissing him with a simple “ok, thanks” … the answer honestly “you know what, I feel that something’s wrong and I need someone to talk to about it.”

I remember my first session and here I will completely leave my comfort zone, but approaching the matter quite disrespectfully, I left the therapist’s office completely … broken.

I fell apart, and I felt as if I had broken into pieces, but at the same time the feeling that something better, something more perfect could be glued together from these pieces.. such a 2.0 to me, it aroused my appetite for more.

… and everything affects how we approach the world, how we treat people we meet daily, and what kind of relationship we have with family, partner, or friend.

It’s like a mailbox filling up, unread messages pile up and you put off reading them indefinitely. Sometimes you throw such an email into the trash without reading it, but it is still there waiting for a reply.

Sometimes we just can’t talk about certain things with the people closest to us because the fear of exposing ourselves is paralyzing. The fear of forever changing the image of ourselves in the eyes of a loved one effectively prevents us from throwing away all our feelings and ills, and I am an excellent example of this.

Fear of rejection, ridicule, trivialization, and minimization of the problem – are common reasons for not communicating your problems with people around you.

On February 23, we celebrate world day against depression, and today I wish you, too, that we realize that sometimes it is bad, sometimes you don’t want to, and sometimes you lack strength and motivation, but there is always a way out. I wish you and me that when it’s bad, you have enough balls to say it out loud and reach out for help.

I wish you that after entering your mailbox, the message “no unread messages” will be displayed.