SELF-DISCOVERY - HOW TO SPEND TIME WITH MYSELF

I don't know about you, but I need to be alone with myself from time to time... I go for a walk alone, I invite myself for dinner or coffee, I talk to myself and I like it very much.

However, not everyone is mindful of this. I am often surprised: “Alone for dinner? Don't you feel weird?" No, I don't. That's why I decided to write about the need to be consciously alone with myself...

For me personally, being alone with myself at home, in my intimacy, gives me the most. My ritual is to drink coffee every morning. The ritual is that no matter what happens, I want to drink my coffee without haste and in the morning silence.

It's "my time". Then I hear my thoughts and needs, I feel my body and all the tensions accumulated in it, but also fears and stress ... This time allows me to take care of myself.

I realize then what is important to me and in which direction I want to direct my energy. This time is not always pleasant. However, I always have the feeling that I enter a new day calmer and more in touch with myself.

I used to want to be everywhere. Keep in touch with everyone. I thought I was extremely sociable, that I rested among people. The culture sends a clear message - extroverts are cool. But why did I so often feel exhausted and dream of a week spent at home without any company? It took me many years to discover the conditions in which I relax. How much time do I need to spend in my temple of solitude to feel happy? I learned not to drown out my thoughts and fears with TV, telephone, or meetings with friends. In a word - stimuli that do not allow contact with one's self.

As a child, I was intuitively able to balance being in company with the need to take a break from sensations. Like most children of the 90s, I liked spending my free time outside. But just as often I sat with my nose buried in books in my room or library. And when the noise in the common room was driving me crazy, I told the teacher that I was going to the toilet and went upstairs, where it was completely dark and quiet in the afternoon. I loved those moments.

For a long time, I was offended when someone said that I was calm. I didn't want to be calm. I wanted to be cool. A cool person has a lot of friends with whom he has great adventures. He treats the house as a bedroom, he attends all interesting events. Let something always happen, let nice people in nice clothes scroll around, and let the music play. I think I've been watching too much Gossip Girl.

When I was young, even yoga seemed like a boring activity to me. Fortunately, things change with age and experience. I stopped seeing peace and solitude as something negative. Although I love spending time with close people and I love teaching, I also need a lot of time to be alone. Then I rest and recharge my batteries.

You are the most important relationship for yourself, the greatest source of inspiration, and the most valuable good - provided that you take proper care of yourself and can spend time just for yourself. If your palms sweat and your heart start beating faster at the thought of sitting alone for more than a few minutes, read this post.

How we deal with loneliness says a lot about us. It allows us to find mental stability even in difficult times. The ability to enjoy solitude is a sign of emotional maturity and independence.

Is it possible that we are so intolerable to ourselves that we need others to see us more accepted?

"Those who hate loneliness only hate themselves."

Anonymous

Well-being is a very personal experience. Every moment we spend alone is special. Different impressions appear in us, depending on what moment of life we find ourselves in, as well as our mental state.

Not every mind can hold back the pain caused by certain conflicts and life circumstances. There are times when the sound of our echo makes us dizzy. Usually what we do then is overwhelm ourselves with the noise from outside.

To avoid spending time alone, we try to run down the dead-end path.

If isolation is unbearable for us, we reach for our masks and put aside authenticity to avoid what causes us anxiety.

Either option is good, as long as you don't fall into loneliness and don't hear the message that your body and mind are trying to convey to us.

"Loneliness can be fatal."

Deliberately spending time alone, however, does nothing but renewal. By choosing to spend some of your time alone, you will have mental, emotional, and social benefits. You will feel the brilliance and glory. Besides recharging your batteries, and providing space for rest, reflection, and relaxation, solitude is also a brilliant teacher.

The moment you are freed from other people's eyes and ears, your inner truth can breathe. In solitude, you learn who you are and what your authenticity looks like. It is self-awareness that allows you to stand firmly on your feet.

Self-knowledge frees us from the prison of useless criticism. This kind of emancipation, when we free ourselves from the burden of someone else's judgment and expectations, builds within us a wall of autonomy and individuality so strong that no negativity can penetrate it.

These two qualities develop especially strongly in us when we are lonely. Our minds have peaceful conditions to wander, coming up with brilliant ideas, projects, and stories. The more engaging your creative endeavors are, the more productive your time alone can be.

By spending time together we have the opportunity to look inside ourselves and then develop interpersonal intelligence. Lessons learned from the past shape the social dimension of our lives. Empathy is built on self-knowledge.

If you don't believe you have the above qualities and abilities, deliberate solitude will only make them stronger. And because we're all beautiful and different, there's no way to tell what wisdom lies within the comfort of your uniqueness.

You have to find your way to internal dialogue. What we do doesn't matter. We mustn't have to interact with other representatives of our species during it.

The magic of deliberate solitude gives us access to social life without forcing us into it. Humans are usually social creatures. However, the one who has experienced peace in an uninhabited space, where you can do whatever you want without having to consult anyone, knows the true value of mindfulness and breathing in the present moment.

Just because we enjoy company a lot doesn't mean we don't need a break from it sometimes. Respect your intuition on this matter.

Loneliness is the desire to connect with other people, it is the desire to connect with yourself.

Keanu Reeves